Still Open #54

Always Open: Still Open: Still Open #54

Join Barbara Dunkelman, Lawrence Sonntag, Maggie Tominey, and Mariel Salcedo as they answer a question from the Box of Issues!

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  • sharaglas FIRST Member Star(s) Indication of membership status - One star is a FIRST member, two stars is Double Gold

    6 days ago

    I absolutely love this show. Just wanted to say that.


    I totally agree with you you guys said this episode, also want to say some people are aromantic so it's just not a thing in their life!

  • Kelsobunny FIRST Member Star(s) Indication of membership status - One star is a FIRST member, two stars is Double Gold

    3 weeks ago

    I really like Maggie I keep up with her on social media and i really like hearing about her experiences and opinions i hope she comes back soon!

  • kaikaips3 FIRST Member Star(s) Indication of membership status - One star is a FIRST member, two stars is Double Gold

    4 weeks ago

    Lawrence was a really great guest!

  • Jedonai FIRST Member Star(s) Indication of membership status - One star is a FIRST member, two stars is Double Gold

    4 weeks ago

    Something that was not really commented on directly with this topic was the fact that many people are not wired to be capable of a "friends with benefits" relationship. That is the issue the writer had. People wired like this will alway heavily emotionally invest with someone they choose to have sex with and so when they do cross paths with someone who does not invest quickly or who is just looking for FWB they will be hurt as he was. This is something that many men are judged negatively for because it is assumed that we will always be up for sex and that attachment does not matter to us. 


    Now you did a good job of talking about how to deal with the recovery from this and to not look negatively upon the girl for her not wanting to continue with things. I just think it is important to realize that some people put a high emotional value on the connection and vulnerability that a sexual relationship is. 

  • Scourge1001 FIRST Member Star(s) Indication of membership status - One star is a FIRST member, two stars is Double Gold

    4 weeks ago

    Barb gets viciously attacked by a piece of paper near the end.

  • Cody_N95 FIRST Member Star(s) Indication of membership status - One star is a FIRST member, two stars is Double Gold

    4 weeks ago

    I'm so glad you all enjoyed our box of issues we sent! It was fun seeing you hold it and that we are really part of the show now. Enjoy your well deserved break and we can't wait for the new season! By the way, I also messaged Lindsay to apologize for misspelling her name. Lol

    -Lissa

  • ActionSalad FIRST Member Star(s) Indication of membership status - One star is a FIRST member, two stars is Double Gold

    4 weeks ago

    I will miss you Barbara. You are definitely correct on the comments for this show being completely different than other rooster teeth shows, Lol.

    Get yourself some Cow Chop merch.

  • damoto669 FIRST Member Star(s) Indication of membership status - One star is a FIRST member, two stars is Double Gold

    4 weeks ago

    Love the show! Congrats on another great season. The part I like best about the show is that it truly feels like the people on the show genuinely like each other and are friends. The conversations do not feel enclosed and feel like they are allowed to flow into whatever topic, like real friends talk. I enjoy the unpolished feel where some topics can feel awkward and raw sometimes, but it's not a constant. Never thought I'd be compelled to leave a comment but I wanted to tell you all, that what you do matters. Wish you all the best in the future with the show and everything you decide to point your hearts to.

  • adamkinected FIRST Member Star(s) Indication of membership status - One star is a FIRST member, two stars is Double Gold

    4 weeks ago

    Where do we submit questions for Box of Issues? I have something that I need to ask but don't know where.

  • NilCaelum FIRST Member Star(s) Indication of membership status - One star is a FIRST member, two stars is Double Gold

    4 weeks ago

    I don't know why I don't like funhaus, I like Lawrence, kovic, Bruce, and Elise but I don't like funhaus content and I don't get it

    • adamkinected FIRST Member Star(s) Indication of membership status - One star is a FIRST member, two stars is Double Gold

      4 weeks ago

      How old are you? (Im not being a d**k, genuinely curious) it might be because their humour is aimed more at an older audience than achievement hunter :)

    • ShuumatsuDBA FIRST Member Star(s) Indication of membership status - One star is a FIRST member, two stars is Double Gold

      4 weeks ago

      I get it.  I enjoy all of them individually or in groups.  I don't know if it's that they have different characters they bring out for their own stuff vs. the other RT groups, but I don't enjoy them in their own content as much.  I wish I did, I tried watching their videos like I do with AH & RT, but I just don't have as much fun watching them for whatever reason.  I'm in my 30's and their style doesn't resonate with me as much, so I don't think it's an age thing.

    • NilCaelum FIRST Member Star(s) Indication of membership status - One star is a FIRST member, two stars is Double Gold

      3 weeks ago

      @adamkinected I'm 24 and it's all good no offense taken.

    • RemyLeBro FIRST Member Star(s) Indication of membership status - One star is a FIRST member, two stars is Double Gold

      3 weeks ago

      The humor and editing are definitely different. AH and RT tend to do longer length videos. They do less hard cuts and they don't tend to trim as much fat as Funhaus. Different strokes. I listen to Dude Soup religiously. I just don't watch too many of their Let's Plays. 

  • Ranger_Gavin FIRST Member Star(s) Indication of membership status - One star is a FIRST member, two stars is Double Gold

    4 weeks ago

    would you like to know who i think would be a real Hoot for an episode of Always open ?  Ellie Main sunglasses

  • 8Veronica8 FIRST Member Star(s) Indication of membership status - One star is a FIRST member, two stars is Double Gold

    4 weeks ago

    It wasn't until they said that the female in the situation was the student that I realized college guy wasn't sleeping with a professor. They assumed he was a TA and he used the phrase sleeping with a colleague or something so I assumed fellow teacher instead of fellow student. Whoops!! 

  • MrWykydtron FIRST Member Star(s) Indication of membership status - One star is a FIRST member, two stars is Double Gold

    4 weeks ago

    Solid Boondock Saints reference from Lawrence.

  • requinbleu FIRST Member Star(s) Indication of membership status - One star is a FIRST member, two stars is Double Gold Requin

    4 weeks ago

    I'm sorry but I have to as k: is no one (I'm referring specifically to the hosts here)  going to comment on the fact that the girl had an actual list??


    Don't get me wrong - that's actually quite responsible of her so I'm not knocking it - but for him to be aware of said list must have been devastating. 


    I also don't think he was shaming her but just expressing the hurt that anyone would feel if they knew that their first time was with someone who kept a list and waited until a few weeks after the fact to state that. 

  • devilito666 FIRST Member Star(s) Indication of membership status - One star is a FIRST member, two stars is Double Gold

    4 weeks ago

    Maggie's right Dragonball is way better than Z.

    • bigtipper FIRST Member Star(s) Indication of membership status - One star is a FIRST member, two stars is Double Gold

      1 week ago

      Yes, the humour and storylines were top notch and many of the background characters were developed really well. Dragonball Z had really epic moments, but Dragonball was better overall. (dragonball z had way too much powercreep as well)

  • Akimbowles FIRST Member Star(s) Indication of membership status - One star is a FIRST member, two stars is Double Gold Akimbowles

    4 weeks ago

    The idea of not understanding how/why people can have sex without an emotional attachment is called being Demisexual.

    I am demisexual, and I cannot have a sexual relationship with a person without first having an emotional connection with them. So maybe that is why this guy doesn't understand people that can have casual sex, because to him it seems like a completely alien thing.

    • cyd0nia FIRST Member Star(s) Indication of membership status - One star is a FIRST member, two stars is Double Gold Cosmic Floof

      4 weeks ago

      I'm so glad you spoke up about this!

  • DougForYou FIRST Member Star(s) Indication of membership status - One star is a FIRST member, two stars is Double Gold

    4 weeks ago

    My first time was special because we had been together a while and that was also my first real relationship (as in on that lasted a year as opposed to two months), but after a year we broke up and he basically fucked every guy in Glasgow.  At the time I was hurt because I didn't want to just be another name on the list, but then I realised if that's what she wants I have no stake in it.


    Also I'm a huge hypocrite because I basically just went with anyone who gave me a second look at the bar

  • honkysachmo FIRST Member Star(s) Indication of membership status - One star is a FIRST member, two stars is Double Gold Noah

    4 weeks ago

    I literally am not attracted to someone enough to care about sex unless I'm extremely attracted to their personality and am interested in a relationship. I'm still a virgin because I've never gotten past the first conversation I have with someone where I realize we're not compatible enough for me to really care about this person. Pretty sure I'm an outlier with intimacy issues but I've turned down sex and advances from all the girls I've had the opportunity with (as well as having girls as close friends all my life which sadly to many guys still means I obviously love cock) because I would prefer one of the most memorable moments of my life to be with someone I genuinely care about, and that I didn't do it just to say I did it because it makes me less of a beta male or whatever. So I'm on a similar page with college guy where I literally can't understand how people can separate being physically intimate with being in love because thats really the only way I think I could be comfortable enough to actually be intimate with someone.

    Also that part where Barbara very quickly and sheepishly says "sometimes you're with someone for sex but not because you actually like them" doesn't seem like "different strokes for different folks" it seems like "being temporarily dishonest" if the terms are still that you're actually "with" each other, but then again, I'm also a weirdo that can't understand what motivates people to cheat on each other or have open relationships.

  • Alaire89 FIRST Member Star(s) Indication of membership status - One star is a FIRST member, two stars is Double Gold

    1 month ago

    I'm gonna miss you guys! Aaaand happy holidays! <3

  • godoftheodd2 FIRST Member Star(s) Indication of membership status - One star is a FIRST member, two stars is Double Gold Huntsman

    1 month ago

    I have to admit I'm not a fan of the way this question was answered. I see their point of view and I agree with Lawrence that the college guy is putting a lot of emotional weight into his enquiry and that perhaps it would be better for him to focus on himself for a while rather than this sexual partner to help him get over the situation. 

    But I don't like how a lot of this seemed to be shaming the college guy for not being up for casual sexual partners. I agree everyone should live how they choose but a lot of this seemed to be almost blaming the guy for not understanding how people could have sex without an emotional connection. In particular I wasn't a fan of the condescending tone used here and I suspect that was due to Barbara currently being in a friends with benefits situation (which is cool, and her choice) and her feeling she has to "defend" that decision for people?


    I don't know, I'm not bashing the show or the people on it and I make these criticism with the utmost respect for the hosts (I always especially enjoy when Maggie and Lawrence appear on new shows) I just wasn't a fan of how this question was handled. Maybe that's just me reading a tone of the room wrong but it just felt a little hypocritical for them to tell this college guy not to shame her for her choices whilst they seemed to be kind of shaming him for his.


    That's just my opinion though. Again, no malice behind the criticism it's just what I thought when watching this and I hope if Barbara or any of the cast read this they don't feel offended and understand it's not a personal attack on them or their opinions just a small gripe I had with this one instance :) But I'll still be watching the show in the new season as in general I enjoy the discussions they have, and even if I disagree with them it's always nice to try understand different points of view :)

    • Fluffiiie FIRST Member Star(s) Indication of membership status - One star is a FIRST member, two stars is Double Gold

      1 month ago

      I do not think they shamed the guy for not understanding. What they were saying was, in gist, you have to understand there are people who want different things than you. So, you (college guy) want sex in a relationship but they (TA) are okay having sex before a relationship. Neither are wrong. just two people with different perspectives having relations. However, as Lawrence touched upon, when you criticize/question why would someone just have sex..., as the college guy did, then you are being critical of someone for not being like you which is wrong. 

    • hahapwnd11 FIRST Member Star(s) Indication of membership status - One star is a FIRST member, two stars is Double Gold

      4 weeks ago

      So I can see that as a potential read of the room, maybe you're right, but from what I took from it, most of the conversation were basically saying "Hey, this happens, it's a part of life and developing sexual experience, with time and growing as a human you will overcome these types of emotional turmoil with greater ease should they arise." pretty much repeating that sentiment in different ways with different examples and specific words of advice (which honestly, having been there myself the majority of my sexual encounters, and now having been on the other side a small portion, the specific words of advice are fucking spot on).


      The bashing part, I did also did sense, but not in the same regard/context as you. Specifically Lawrence was the one who sparked and fueled the criticism of the college guy, and honestly, rightfully so. The words of CG's (college guy) lack of understanding (in my opinion) didn't seem inflammatory. The source of critique was his expression of the situation, which seemed to have malicious and condescending undertone, and you know, if you just got hurt by someone in a deep way, hatred and wanting to just call the person a vile cum guzzling slut dumpster is, in a way, natural in the beginning of developing emotional and social experiences from trials like this (well, natural of men who are active on the internet, or just 4chan). But those type of things and that type of mentality toward a person or group of people is... well quite literally a form of bigotry. The CG's specific case of criticism (at the least, expressing discontent and at the extreme interpretation, displaying misogynistic disgust) is (again, in my opinion) a valid cause for concern to attempt to prevent hostile prejudice against a group of people. 


      Not only does he face disregarding his morality (in a kinda funny manner "I really felt like I shouldn't do something, but then I did it") (btw, my thoughts on that are either CG should change how he feels about doing it since feeling it was wrong didn't actually DO anything, or reinforce the reasons why he shouldn't do the things he feels he shouldn't do), but he also has just been directly harmed by something that he appears to not support. Because it's the first time happening, it stands as a vital cause for his future ideology in regard to promiscuity in this nature. In terms of just development, I feel like most people wouldn't want a person to develop into someone who acts malevolently towards anyone (except for the social groups that every individual considers deserving of harm for whatever reason, ie nazis, pedophiles, 1st degree murderers, people that get out a new roll of toilet paper but don't put it in the mother fucking holder like a god damned animal- I digress). Point is, they were expressing that something CG said was a red flag, and he shouldn't be shitty to people (while also saying that seeing something as a red flag may have been just due to miscommunication... which would make this essay of a comment kinda pointless lol).


      All that being said, they kinda missed an important part when criticizing CG, which to me would seem pretty shitty if I wasn't aware they only spent 14 minutes on the subject because it is a production with a crew and they can't go into such detail about every single segment, since, you know, not a lot of people would watch 6 hour episodes every week (plus broadcast would probably be hecking annoyed at the people on the show who won't wrap it the fuck up, they work hard with all of the shows they produce, I doubt they could fit 3 more off topics every week).


      The thing is, if he has a prejudice against people who have emotionless sex with no resent or regret, he honestly has the right to think that. He just shouldn't be a dick to people because of it. There's no real difference between not associating with people for any reason. And I mean this in cases where no one is being harmed, that's the difference between how Jeremy calls a toaster a slut and how CW teen drama shows portray slut shaming in high school. If CG just doesn't want to be friends with someone because they got hoes in different area codes, or because they once cheated on their S/O, or because they used his bathroom and CLEARLY saw that the toilet roll was out, went OUT OF THEIR WAY to open a FULL pack even though there was a pack open on the shelf behind him, and didn't even have the decency to put the new roll on--- alright this shtick got stupid, fuck you Dominic for disrespecting my bathroom. But you get this last point, he can not like people for whatever reason, as long as he isn't a dick then it's alright for everyone.

    • jest2 FIRST Member Star(s) Indication of membership status - One star is a FIRST member, two stars is Double Gold

      4 weeks ago

      Exactly, the advice that I'd give is that you need open communication otherwise people get hurt. If they actually talked about what they were doing then he could have made an informed decision. The advice on the show seems to be more like 'Eh, you fucked someone and it turns out it was casual, you should expect that' which, actually, is a kind of shitty thing to say. Sex, while not a big deal physically, is a big emotional boundary. Especially if it's your first time.

  • jinjalion FIRST Member Star(s) Indication of membership status - One star is a FIRST member, two stars is Double Gold

    1 month ago

    that one cuts deep

  • Ranger_Gavin FIRST Member Star(s) Indication of membership status - One star is a FIRST member, two stars is Double Gold

    1 month ago

    have an awesome X-MASS Always open and a safe new year too snowflake snowman santa christmas_tree sunflower heart

  • brackettdh FIRST Member Star(s) Indication of membership status - One star is a FIRST member, two stars is Double Gold

    1 month ago

    I really like Lawrence on this show. I think he's got a great perspective that the others may not have, and adds a lot to it because of that.

  • AH_Justicar FIRST Member Star(s) Indication of membership status - One star is a FIRST member, two stars is Double Gold Pirate Captain

    1 month ago

    I didn't get the impression that "Anonymous College Guy" was shaming people who have casual sex. He simply doesn't get it. I'm kind of with him in terms of not understanding it. But the fact is that it happens and there isn't really anything TO understand, apart from the fact that people do it and they like it. In his case he just needs to realize that and let it go, shit happens. 

  • PhantomAC FIRST Member Star(s) Indication of membership status - One star is a FIRST member, two stars is Double Gold Not Otaku, Just Nerd

    1 month ago

    See ya Soon! Thanks for a great year!

  • NNator FIRST Member Star(s) Indication of membership status - One star is a FIRST member, two stars is Double Gold

    1 month ago

    My view on this 'box of issues' issue changed very, very recently - like within the last 6 months. Almost two years ago a girl broke up with me because she wanted to see other dudes, and I later found out that she moved on to having sex with people fairly quickly after me. We were each others' firsts so it really shocked me that she did that, and looking back I probably did shame her and other people who do that a bit in my mind. I always thought that it was so weird that people could have sex with no emotional connection, and that I was somehow better than all those people because I saved myself or whatever..


    After doing a lot of soul searching, I eventually reached a point this year where I was okay to get into a 'friends with benefits' type relationship with my best friend. Unfortunately it was a little bit heavier than just 'friends with benefits' because we were so close that we did most things together anyway, and also we agreed that we weren't really comfortable with the two of us seeing other people (this was the first time either of us had gotten into this kind of thing). It did start to feel like more of a relationship, which is something neither of us wanted. We both agreed to cut off the intimacy recently. 


    The recent thing I had with my friend really gave me perspective. I now fully understand exactly where people are coming from when they have sex without the emotion. It doesn't make people better or worse. I now have sort of come to the conclusion that there aren't really any rules in life when it comes to relationships (obviously except for the very serious obvious ones). Two consenting adults can basically set up any relationship with any boundaries that they want.


    I see where this guy is coming from, because I was almost exactly there at one point in my life.. But I hope someday he realises that it's all okay. I feel like I see life, relationships, and sex way less rigidly, now, and that's always a good thing. I hope this dude can eventually accept that, too - and hey, even if he isn't personally into those kinds of relationships, a little acceptance and understanding will help him in the future to avoid falling into this situation and getting hurt again..

  • JaxBlade FIRST Member Star(s) Indication of membership status - One star is a FIRST member, two stars is Double Gold

    1 month ago

    9:55 Maggie just stole my heart with that line  cupid

  • kadax FIRST Member Star(s) Indication of membership status - One star is a FIRST member, two stars is Double Gold

    1 month ago

    Dragonball is better than Z? You're drunk Maggie go home. 

    • JaxBlade FIRST Member Star(s) Indication of membership status - One star is a FIRST member, two stars is Double Gold

      1 month ago

      But it is tho....

    • kadax FIRST Member Star(s) Indication of membership status - One star is a FIRST member, two stars is Double Gold

      1 month ago

      If you like 130 episodes of nothing then yes. Tournaments were better than Z, I'll give you that one. Rest of it was ZZZ

  • johno3998 FIRST Member Star(s) Indication of membership status - One star is a FIRST member, two stars is Double Gold

    1 month ago

    Season is over, if I could sad react the episode, I would.

    :'( this is the best I got

  • RedDye8 FIRST Member Star(s) Indication of membership status - One star is a FIRST member, two stars is Double Gold

    1 month ago

    Am I the only one getting a hiccup in the video around 7:42? It only last for a sec but it seems to happen every time, even when completely buffered.

    • RDV-1996 FIRST Member Star(s) Indication of membership status - One star is a FIRST member, two stars is Double Gold RDV

      1 month ago

      nope, not seeing it

    • johno3998 FIRST Member Star(s) Indication of membership status - One star is a FIRST member, two stars is Double Gold

      1 month ago

      clear your cache and try again

  • jeremythelee FIRST Member Star(s) Indication of membership status - One star is a FIRST member, two stars is Double Gold

    1 month ago

    Has anonymous college guy been living under a rock? He works at a college and he's is just SHOCKED by the idea of casual sex? WHAT PLANET ARE YOU FROM?! 

    • Zikoro FIRST Member Star(s) Indication of membership status - One star is a FIRST member, two stars is Double Gold

      1 month ago

      It isn't that, it was more he wanted more then causal sex since he thought he would be in a relationship since she didn't tell him that she wanted something more open/casual. She also didn't spring it on him till weeks later (Going by his note).


      Also not everyone can do just the causal stuff. This guy just happen to hope about being the first would be more special instead of a fling.


      But yeah, like Lawrence said, the guy got to get over it and move on if he doesn't want a relationship like that.

  • Soulhero FIRST Member Star(s) Indication of membership status - One star is a FIRST member, two stars is Double Gold

    1 month ago

    were do i submit questions for box of issues?

    • notagamergirl FIRST Member Star(s) Indication of membership status - One star is a FIRST member, two stars is Double Gold

      1 month ago

      You can email them in at alwaysopen@roosterteeth.com! 

  • eggbagel FIRST Member Star(s) Indication of membership status - One star is a FIRST member, two stars is Double Gold Thara

    1 month ago

    Lawrence is GREAT on this show.  Please invite him back more!  Can't wait for next season.

  • Pyro100 FIRST Member Star(s) Indication of membership status - One star is a FIRST member, two stars is Double Gold

    1 month ago

    Z is better than Dragon Ball. Fight me.

    • AishaAdventures FIRST Member Star(s) Indication of membership status - One star is a FIRST member, two stars is Double Gold Yomiko Readman's twin

      1 month ago

      Square up!  laughing

    • Pyro100 FIRST Member Star(s) Indication of membership status - One star is a FIRST member, two stars is Double Gold

      4 weeks ago

      @AishaAdventures Ok, but fair warning, it's going to take at least 20 episodes for us to land a blow.

    • AishaAdventures FIRST Member Star(s) Indication of membership status - One star is a FIRST member, two stars is Double Gold Yomiko Readman's twin

      4 weeks ago

      @Pyro100 +2  barbara I thought that was a given. 

      We're going to block attacks while talking about why we're boxing for the first few, spend the next few powering up for our specials, then around the last second of episode 20 something is sure to connect. 


      Then we'll yell to power up while discussing our origins and why neither of us will let the other win for about 30 episodes. Between episodes 60 - 75 we should be powered up for heavy/ultimate attacks and the actual winning blows of the REAL FIGHT will be the last two minutes of episode 125... sound about right?  stuck_out_tongue_winking_eye

  • tkay01 FIRST Member Star(s) Indication of membership status - One star is a FIRST member, two stars is Double Gold

    1 month ago

    Barbara's friend is Mariel  

  • RelaxCourtney88 FIRST Member Star(s) Indication of membership status - One star is a FIRST member, two stars is Double Gold

    1 month ago

    Hopefully the next season comes back in January. 

    • RDV-1996 FIRST Member Star(s) Indication of membership status - One star is a FIRST member, two stars is Double Gold RDV

      1 month ago

      Hopefully it comes back next week

    • Hunter1463 FIRST Member Star(s) Indication of membership status - One star is a FIRST member, two stars is Double Gold

      1 month ago

      RDV Hopefully, but not gonna happen...